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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP. I think it is easy to minimize her situation as you read these anecdotal stories that people post.

Your daughter is under the care of a team of specialists at Children's because her situation is a little outside of the norm of just being a skinny kid.

I think in this situation you have to be open to every option. At the end of the day what you want is for your daughter to be healthy both physically and mentally.  Put aside your initial reactions, keep an open mind and talk to the team about the pros and cons and potential outcomes of the various options you have on the table. Look at what the alternatives are but also at what point the alternatives are insufficient. For example you might make a plan that you won't do a feeding tube now but in 3 months you will assess 4 areas of nutrition and as long as she has made gains in all 4 areas then you will continue with the status quo. If she hasn't made gains, then you will revisit other options.[/quote]

This, OP. If you've gotten to the point that you are seeing specialists at Children's, then this goes beyond what most of these posters are writing about in their own experiences. If an RD who is part of the care team has recommended this, you can be sure that it is in consultation with her pediatrician and other medical professionals. Please listen to what they say. I know a tube sounds horrible, but it's not the end of the world and she wouldn't be the first child treated in this situation. It's only temporary. But they are very concerned about her health and long term outcome at this point, or you wouldn't be hearing this.[/quote]

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+2.  I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but you should listen to the team of professionals who know your child best, and if that suggestion is a feeding tube (temporary), then do what you have to do.[/quote]

+3 OP I feel for you.  I know you came here wanting support and I think you have mostly received it (rare for DCUM) but nobody on this thread except for maybe 11:48 has dealt with what you are dealing with.  You've gone to a team of experts and they are telling you your daughter needs a feeding tube.  They are telling you your daughter is in danger.  It's certainly understandable to question and have hesitation, but you need to be questioning them not an anonymous message board with people trying to give you recipes and I was a small kid too stories.

I would start by asking what they think are the risks if you don't do the feeding tube and how urgent they think it is i.e. can you let your daughter wait and try to "take more ownership?"  Is there something that makes you think she will when she hasn't before?  I mean this kindly but it seems like you might be burying your head in the sand a bit on that.  If you still have concerns after a tough conversation with your medical team, how about getting a second opinion?  Where is the best children's hospital for your daughter's condition?  They should have contacts there and can send your case files for review.  If you are up for it, go in person.  Good doctors aren't defensive about getting a second opinion from other top doctors. Many welcome it as an opportunity to collaborate with colleagues on treatment of interesting/difficult cases.

Best wishes to you and your DD.  Sometimes you just have to wakeup and do the best you can each day.  Hugs.[/quote]

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