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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you asking if you should go to the park? Did you want him to come with you? Just make a decision and leave.[/quote]

This is what I was thinking. Why can't you just make a decision?  You're an adult with a marriage and child but you can't decide if there's time to go to the park or not? COME ON!  You sound indecisive and naggy. I wouldn't want to answer you either.  JUST DECIDE.[/quote]

Op here. We have a baby (10 weeks old) and a toddler. My decisions affect him. If I left with toddler he’d have to watch the baby and figure out dinner. If he came with us then we would have grabbed dinner out together. [/quote]

But he's an adult.  With a wife and children.  He's not "watching the baby".  He's PARENTING HIS CHILD.  And again, he's an adult. So he should have no problem figuring out dinner.  [/quote]

He's parenting his child, but that involves, you know, making [b]actual, joint decisions[/b] about who's taking care of the child and [b]what's going to be eaten. [/b] [/quote]

This is where you all are going wrong.  You don't need to make mutual decisions about dinner.  The person cooking dinner decides what is for dinner.  Geesh.[/quote]

I feel like you guys are being ridiculous. I'm a PP with a husband who is quiet and non-responsive sometimes. If I'm leaving the house during a mealtime I have a conversation with him about what to do because I do all the food. My husband does all the laundry so its egalitarian but I do the food, I cook dinner every day and I plan meals and structure the week. So if I'm leaving with the toddler at 5 for an hour and he needs to make dinner then having a short efficient conversation establishing what I'm doing and what he will need to do if he wants himself and the children to eat on time is critical. I would also never leave the house leaving him with the baby without making he knows I'm doing that. And he'd be annoyed if I did that.

OP's conversation is just basic, 'what's the plan' conversation. How on earth do you people stay married? Figuring out how to exercise children and make dinner is so onerous a conversation, how do you all keep up with each other at all?

I do no chat aimlessly with my husband. But I do care if he just straight up ignores that I'm talking. I care more because I have altered my baseline chattiness to be more in line with his more reserved introverted self. I met him halfway. Like another PP said, not answering is turning away from an opportunity to connect to your spouse. If you want a healthy marriage, then acknowledging your spouse as a human being seems like a pretty baseline place to start. [/quote]

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