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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to say this even though it won't be popular. I realize it's stereotyping and it's not true in every case but, women talk a lot more than men.

When we are in the dating phase, there are nerves and passion in play and people are sometimes afraid to say the wrong thing, so the gap isn't as noticeable. When you get comfortable and are married, guys tend to be "a little talked out" and women tend to fill silence with words. Much like sex becomes more of a chore and less of a pleasure for the woman as some marriages age, conversation becomes more of a chore and less of a pleasure for men.

I think it may be a woman's willingness to discuss even the most inane topic and dis issue to death. My wife struggles with an economy of words when she speaks. She's great when she writes. Even the simplest statements that could be understood by anyone are accompanied by a 5 minute explanation of why. Over time, it wears on you.[/quote]

I'm sure my husband thinks I talk to much. But it is just rude to not acknowledge someone at all. And even he knows this. OP's husband could have responded, 'i'm good with baby, have fun' and that would have been the end of it. Or even, 'cool, have fun'.

I make decisions all the time that I don't consult him on, but sometimes you just want to talk to the person you chose to spend your life with and who chose to spend it with you. It is depressing to try to make a little conversation and be completely ignored. If your boss was trying to make conversation, you'd chime in, why not with your spouse?

You chose to marry someone who likes to chat, so don't blatantly ignore them when they say something. [/quote]

Our family is the flip.  I (DH) come from an ethnic family that gets together and everyone talks over each other and we have six conversations going on at the same time and the same story will get retold 3-4 times as it makes its way around the group.  My wife comes from a family that is quieter and more reticent.  They talk very minimally and usually only when they have something constructive to say/discuss and rarely "just make conversation".

I've found over the years (we've been married 17 years and together for 20) that it works better when I talk less.  So, I usually limit "just making conversation" to times like dinner or when we are in the car together, or when we specifically sit down just to talk and catch up on the day.  Outside of those periods, I usually only say things that require her attention or opinion and when I do, I try to make it more succinct.  The conversation stub OP presented would drive my wife nuts and she would also shut down like OP's husband does, if that happened more than once a day.  So, if I were to have OP's sample conversation, it would be:

Me: I'm going to take the kids to the playground before dinner.  Are you coming?
DW:  Silence.
Me:  Okay, we'll try to be back by X:00.

And then when I'm at the playground, about 10 minutes before we head home, I'll send a text saying "Home in 15 minutes.  Let's do X for dinner."

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