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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh, that's a hot button issue for me. In my house it goes a little something like this:

Me, shouting from upstairs: "Hey Dave- there's a letter on the coffee table if you could grab it and mail it on your way to office, please."

DH: *silence*

Me, 15 seconds later: "Hey Dave, take that letter on the table to the mail box on your way to work, okay?"

DH: *exaggerated sigh* "I [i]HEARD[/i] you!"

Me: "Well then f'ing respond and I won't have to repeat myself!"[/quote]

Op here. Agggg. Yes!

I do note all the comments I’ve received that there might be a genuine hearing issue here or something like ADHD/autism going on. It’s not that I disagree. I think those could be factors.

At the same time, I read the example above, which has also happened to me and it’s very hard for me to see anything other than passive aggression.[/quote]

NP. My DH does this sometimes too (the mailing the letter convo). Our relationship has improved dramatically with counseling and less stress, and now I follow up with him saying "I HEARD you!" with a semi-sarcastic-semi-sweet "Oh, I see, I must have missed your response to my first question. Thanks!"

He's getting better, but I've told him a million times how aggravating it is to get no answer to a question. In our case, it's a respect issue- I've told him how disrespectful it is for him to just ignore me, and now he's gotten better, because he wasn't trying to be disrespectful. Plus, I've intentionally ignored him a few times to show him how it feels, and that hit home. Did I mention we also went to counseling? Our relationship really improved with several months of weekly therapy. [/quote]

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