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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To be honest, I haven't read all the replies but two thoughts:

1) I work in HR. [b]Even our HR lawyer would advise you get one chance, before you veer into creepy/hr issue territory. No concerns with an initial ask. [/b]

2) I'm married to the love of my life- many years and kids later, who I met at work, in much closer circumstances. [/quote]

Thank you for posting.  I'm the one who said up thread asking for a date is not harassment.  People really need to look that word up in the dictionary.

If she says no, you don't ask her again, the end.

To the person who said, if she "feels" harassed then it's harassment, grow up.  We are not responsible for other people's "feelings," provided we are behaving appropriately.

I make women "feel" nervous and uncomfortable at work all the time.  I don't touch them, I don't leer at them, I don't make inappropriate comments or tell inappropriate jokes.

It happens because they think I'm cute, frankly.  Their "feelings" are their own effing responsibility and not mine.

People need to get a grip.  [/quote]

You need to live in the real world, dumbass. If she feels harassed, and reports you, then the company [i]will[/i] follow it up, and the best-case scenario is you came under suspicion of sexual harassment. That stink never goes away. Thus, her feelings are not just her problem, they will definitely affect YOU. Personally, I wouldn't want to be in my boss's office stammering "honestly, sir, all I did was ask her out once, I don't know what she's talking about" -- but you do you.[/quote]

Guessing you’re still searching for a girlfriend. [/quote]

Nope, got one. Didn't meet her at work, that's for sure. One of my coworkers got canned like a tuna for harassment, which was an instructive lesson for those with the wit to pay attention. You'd be amazed how many women there are in the world! If you "have" to ask a woman out at work, you're just a lazy fck and you deserve to get in the poop with HR. [/quote]

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