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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it’s an out of town weddin we (almost) categorically wouldn’t go. Weekends are family time and going out of town for the weekend might mean that we go 12 days without really spending quality time with our kids together (rushed weeknight dinners followed by bathtime doesn’t count). [/quote]

So you never do anything on the weekend that's not 100% family time?  You never go away for a girls' weekend?  Your husband never goes away for a guys' weekend?  Sad.  And I say this as someone who works full time, as does my husband.[/quote]

NP. I don’t think it’s “sad” at all. I think it’s nice that she’s prioritizing time with her young children. Plus a lot of people don’t even like girls/guys weekends. They’re kind of a thing for extroverts with lots of disposable income.[/quote]

I'm an introvert (and work full-time) and just had a girls' weekend in Vegas with my sister and cousin. It was a blast. I'm glad my children know that mommy and/or daddy can go away for a few days, and it is fine. My sister/cousins know me and if I went back to the room to rest or down to the spa for a hot tub session by myself for some alone time while they kept shopping, it was no big deal. We ate at great restaurants, saw Celine, had a BLAST. Meanwhile, my kids had fun with Daddy and went hiking, had pizza for dinner one night and cleaned up the house to make it special for me when I got home.

I was a camp counselor and had a few girls in their tweens and late teens who had never been away from their parents before, even for a weekend with grandparents. How do you think that went? You think they were secure, confident, well-adjusted girls? [/quote]

This is all totally off topic.... ?   Wanting to spend time together as a family on weekends when your kids are young does not mean you never give your kids a chance to learn independence or be away from mom and dad.  I actually posted back on page 1 or 2 that my DH and I go away for a trip without our kids once a year, as an example.  And we go away separately from time to time as well.  What you are posting about has nothing to do with out of town weddings that don't allow kids and whether or not parents prioritize going to these events despite incovenience/ costs/ etc [/quote]

Um...I'm responding to "it's nice to prioritize time with young children" [sure, but not ALL the time; being with them ALL the time is actually not good for either you or them] and the comment that "girls' trips are for introverts" [jigga-wuh?][/quote]

I’m clearly not with them all the time since I’m not a stay at home parent- hence prioritizing family time on weekends. You’re really arguing that it’s better for our kids if their dad and I are gone half the weekends out of the summer, last summer, without them at these childless weddings? And don’t say “it’s not that many- just the important ones!” Because I’ve already clarified that for a very close friend or family member we would attend. The post was about saying no to child free weddings as a general lie and yes f they are out of town, as a general rule, we think it’s better for our kids to spend more than 1-2 weekends a month with us from May through September.[/quote]

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