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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And this is why DH and I each get a separate sum of money to do whatever we want with each paycheck.  I would go crazy if I had to run everything by DH and he feels the same way.[/quote]
This is just masking the issue at hand.  [/quote]
+1  This is what OP said: "Spouse wanted to buy something on impulse that I felt would be a huge time suck and would result in adding more to my overflowing plate because of the time commitment"[/quote]

How would it be a huge time suck for her, if her spouse bought this thing?  It might be a huge time suck for him.

How is it a huge time suck for her?[/quote]

Because he abandons all responsibility for family duties. I too, would be pretty pissed off if I was doing everything for the kids and house and he was out fixing his boat or whatever. It's selfish on his part.[/quote]

Then thread should have been titled, and focused on, the fact that husband just doesn't do enough around the house.  The reason why is not really relevant (unless he is pulling double shifts or something.)

That's not how OP has chosen to frame things however.  She has chosen to view the relationship as one giant long running argument and the only thing that really matters is who wins or loses the argument.  She laid down an ultimatum (don't buy the boat) and lost the argument.

All she really needed to say is my husband doesn't do his fair share of the work around the house, how do I change that?

So the issue reallly isn't even about that.  It's about this arguing dynamic the two of them have.  That's why they're always arguing and can never seem to cooperate.  This time it's a boat, next time it will be some other "reason."   [/quote]

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