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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone who had no help applying to college (and making financial decisions about college), and no financial help from my parents after turning 18, this article is kind of rage inducing. [/quote]

Nah.  It’s totally worth being an independent adult whose major financial successes have been entirely on her own.

A lot of times money comes with strings.  I have pseudo wealthy parents who could pay for things if I asked them.  But I would feel like a loser having my parents pay for preschool, our downpayment etc.

Many of the friends whose parents still pay for things have marital problems as a result.  Money is rarely free.  [/quote]

This is you trying to make yourself feel better.  Lots of people get help with down payments, yearly gifts, etc.  Often there is a solid relationship there.  My parents gave me a large down payment and I didn’t even ask for it.[b]  If there were strings I didn’t see them and they certainly weren’t visible to my spouse, and definitely not a source of tension.  [/b]And I didn’t buy an extravagant house, I bought a regular house and don’t have a mortgage.[/quote]

If my husband accepted help from my parents or his [b]I’d consider him a loser who couldn’t support his family. [/b] I would never admit this to his face but deep down I’d feel this way.  He’s be emasculated if my parents wrote us heck’s or gave us a downpayment.  Luckily we make enough money that we don’t need help from our parents.  You might think your spouse doesn’t care, but he or she may feel differently.  [/quote]

DCUM rule of thumb: not everyone thinks or acts like you.

Why are your feelings on how other people live their life important?  Not everyone feels this way, and your husband is lucky to have you. [/quote]

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