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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The statistics for the longevity of early marriages are not good. I saw lots of classmates and family members marry young, have kids young, divorce and struggle to have the careers that they hoped for. Having kids outside of marriage is no better. Some people make it work, and that’s great, but not the norm.

As a woman, I chose to take my chances with future fertility in exchange for a solid, mature marriage/child raising partnership and and well established careers with good, reliable incomes.

When I think about what my life would be like if I had kids early I feel like I dodged a bullet.[/quote]

+1 to all of this. I wouldn't trade my childless 20s for the world, and I don't think I would be a great parent at that age because I would have been dealing with serious FOMO about everything. Not just things like travel and late nights at the bar, but big things like building a solid career that allows me to have the kind of expertise and rank that provides some flexibility and stability in my 30s. Not to mention the maturity to pick a great relationship and have solid financial footing.

The statistics for early marriages are not good. There are exceptions to every rule and if that's you, fantastic! But the divorce rate is high and my anecdotal experience watching friends from college marry early shows the same. The lucky ones had "mulligan marriages" and divorced with no kids by 25. The ones who had 3 kids and a divorce under their belts by 30...I don't envy them. [/quote]

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