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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you're not getting much sympathy here and maybe you need it. I was hit as a kid, belts, slapped, teeth dug into skin, nails into skin, etc. I would have loved to have had a different childhood, but glad I didn't lose my mom. Growing up like this was damaging. We were terrified of her blowing up in front of friends, which she did, of hitting us all the time, which she did until I was 24. She sat on me and hit me one day because she didn't like what I said. We had a bad childhood, but my mom was abused and it's what she knew and it's what she taught us. In return, we all were verbally and emotionally abusive to her and to each other. We are all good people that grew up in extremely toxic relationships. We attract toxic people into our life. I married and divorced an abuser.

I have a kid now. I am tempted to respond to some of his actions by hitting, but I swore to myself I wouldn't because I was worried it'll start of with a NBD slap, then evolve. I couldn't open the gate because I was worried of the flood. DC is in elementary school now, I don't touch him. I've locked myself in the bathroom with headphones before to stop from reacting. It's hard to break out of what you're used to. I yell, I hate that I do it and I'm working on it, but I do. I at least don't call him the names I was called as a kid, but the yelling is something I don't like because when I had fevers as a kid, I'd dream of my mom yelling. It clearly traumatized me.

I'm the above poster about calling CPS on my ex and that going nowhere. I'm so sensitive to abuse. Get yourself help, work really hard on not responding physically to your kid. You're teaching him that people who love him can hurt him and that is setting him up for a lifetime of hurt. Remember, he's a kid, this is tough on him too.

I hope you get the grace and patience you need. And I hope you figure this out with your kid. REMEMBER, it might be just a slap or a spank for you, but it's humiliating and hurtful for your kid. GL. [/quote]

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