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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let's take a step back for a quick minute.

Can we all agree that this isn't about the one night feeding?  No one calls the cops about a single night feeding.  There is an underlying issue here, probably multiple.  Yes, DH was a jerk and pulled an insane move to call the cops.  No doubt about that.  But what has been happening in the months/years prior to this incident?

Call me whatever name you want but an unprovoked call to the cops doesn't sound like it's all one sided where DH is at fault for everything under the sun.  I don't want to victim blame and I'm not doing that but I just want to know more about what the underlying relationship was all about and how it was going before this incident.

Isn't anyone else curious about the length of the relationship, how DH has treated DW before they had kids, how old both parties are, what cultures they come from, etc?  How is it that DCUM automatically jumps to, this marriage can't be save, counseling doesn't work for DH, and get a divorce?

Sounds like both parties are somewhat at fault in the relationship but in this specific incident, DH went way too far in calling the cops.

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My point being- so that he would look good and she would look bad. He knows exactly what he's doing.

NP.  There are always two sides but what strikes me about OP's story and makes me side with her is that the DH refused to help the baby.  Obviously he was doing it to spite her, but decent people who truly have their children's best interests at heart, wouldn't do that no matter how they were feeling toward their spouse/partner in the moment.  He could've helped the baby and THEN called the cops if there was a concern about how things would go with the OP - although if that was the case, why would he continue to bring the baby back to OP if he thought she was going to fly off the handle or do something?

This sounds like a man who has no regard for his own child's well-being and who is more concerned about positioning himself to be the blameless party and making OP look bad for whatever reason.  [/quote]

There are not two sides. This man is threatening violence against this woman. This has nothing to do with the baby or anything else.

He called the cops to intimidate her. He immediately straightened up and seemed calm and rational. I'm going to make a good guess that (tired, sleep deprived, abused, and distraught) OP was a little less calm and rational than he. [/quote][/quote]

What?? Of course this had to do with the baby and whatever other issues had been going on up to this point.  I also made the point of saying that he called the cops to make OP look bad. I just wonder what's been going on in their marriage that this is the result? That does not mean that OP did anything to provoke it, of course.  The point being is that it's obviously not a healthy relationship when one spouse calls the cops on the other over something like this, and OP should do whatever she has to for the sake of herself and her baby.

And calling the cops on someone is not threatening violence.  It's many things, sure, but not that.  In this case, I think it was calculating, manipulative and out of line for the DH to call the cops in this situation.  But I didn't read anything in the OP or her subsequent posts that her DH actually threatened her with violence over the baby issue, or that he was out of control prior to calling the cops. Again, I'm not saying that OP is wrong or that the DH was justified in his actions. Between the back-and-forth with the baby and calling the cops, the man seems unhinged (and I don't say that lightly). [/quote]

Do you think the OP was lying when she said he threatened violence before, or that he never fed the baby? If you don’t believe her, you don’t believe her, but if you do believe her I don’t understand why you’re splitting hairs. [/quote]

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