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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a friend who’s son is traveling the world with the u.s.national under 18 hockey team. Maybe it’s different because he is with an entire team but when they are at the training facility the kids all live with host families. He committed to a D1 school (as much as it is allowed) as a fresh and will be drafted in the 1st round of the NHL draft this year. So for him it’s a dream come true. [/quote]
[/b]I would be less worried about my hockey player son being assaulted. [b]I also think teens still need some parental guidance. In this case, the traveling makes the situation harder for a parent. As much as possible I would want to travel with him, and would certainly live near the training facility with him.[/quote]
You haven't done your research then.[/quote]
Where are you reading that male hockey players are sexually assaulted more than female athletes? I have seen the studies that speak to all male athletes saying they are sexually assaulted more than female athletes. But when you remove peer to peer sexual assault, then female athletes are more often sexually assualted by adults.

I’m curious what makes hockey player sexual assault more prevelant than female athletes across all sports.[/quote]

No where did I say "all" female sports.

I was responding to the statement that you should be far less concerned about your teen boy hockey player being sexually abused than your teen gurl figure skater.

[/b]Youth elite and travel hockey has been rocked by multiple sex abuse scandals of players by coaches in the past few years.  New Jersey, Massachusetts,  Delaware,  Pennsylvania  and Vermont have all had institutionalized sexual abuse of players some to light recently, including one that was discovered when an NHL player who played at very high levels of youth hockey (probably similar to what that poster describes) went public with the abuse he and other players suffered.[b]

You are hiding your head in the sand to think that figure skating girls are more at risk than hockey playing boys. Is it because one wears rhinestones and the others carry sticks?

Frankly, I would worry more about my son than my daughter. There is far less support and way more stigma for a teen boy to speak up about abuse, particularly at the hands of other male teammates (like Damascus football) or by trusted coaches (like Sandusky and countless others).[/quote]
Again. What studies support your claims that male hockey players are more abused?

Your hysteria must be coming from actual facts. Educate us.[/quote]

DP. Don't be stupid. It's well known that sexual abuse of boys is thought to be significantly underreported. But if you don't care about your male children, finding the voluminous discussion about the underreporting of abuse of boys isn't going to help your poor kid.[/quote]

I think its ironic that the parents arguing this are probably the ones who drop off their kids for sports practice starting at 6-7-8 and leave them for an hour or two and come back not at all concerned about kids in the locker rooms or bathrooms where incidents have and do happen.  At least these kids are teens and you teach them to protect or tell a parent.  I wouldn't agree to it but I'd also be willing to move if money was not an issue for a few years.[/quote]

My kids don't do any sports where they are ever by themselves with adults or in any sort of locker rooms. And they've done a wide variety of sports.[/quote]

Mine do.  Yours probably are doing rec and not team sports.[/quote]

Nope. Highly competitive team sports.[/quote]

PP here. Specifically: travel soccer including DA, dance team, basketball, gymnastics, lacrosse, and track. Kids are not alone with coaches and not in locker rooms. The closest thing to a locker room would be a crowded bathroom at gymnastics meets.

I don't know what sketchy sports you are talking about, but most good coaches these days don't want to have unsupervised time with kids and are careful to keep appropriate boundaries.[/quote]

Your kids are never in locker rooms? No school sports then?  I appreciate that you are keeping an eye on your kids but I find this claim a bit dubious if they are older.[/quote]

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