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Yes, it's linked to inattentive ADHD and is partly hereditary.

My son and I are like this.

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Posting again to express my great surprise that it's only on page 4 that I'm the first to come along and mention inattentive ADHD. I'm a research scientist and had to have my son evaluated for ADHD, but I thought it was recognized in the general population as well. There is a reason, apart from the worldwide obsession with coffee, why you so desperately need your caffeine in the morning. There is a reason why stimulants for ADHD might work for you... because you might have ADHD! Inattentive and hyperactive ADHD are both treated in the same way, with stimulants, even though they have certain diametrically opposite symptoms. Hyperactive: can't sit still, always rushing, mercurial temper, flashes of brilliance, great talker, high energy. Inattentive: quiet, introspective, slow, prone to motor issues or hypotonia, thoughtful, low energy. Commonality: attention issues. Sometimes you can be diagnosed as "mixed type" if the psychologist evaluating you sees a few traits of each type.

Please don't call it lazy. By using the derogatory word on yourselves, you are perpetuating the shame and guilt placed on certain inborn traits that you cannot help! Don't make it so easy for others to dismiss and belittle you.

Don't forget that our traits are all linked together (genes). It's important to know this about ourselves to find the right job and the right mate. My mother, myself and my son, are all low-energy and slow, yet we are creative and thoughtful. We might not be one without the other, and this is a critical concept. You cannot separate the desirable from the less desirable in a human being without heavy intervention, either pharmaceutical or otherwise, and sometimes not even then. My son does very well in school and is respected by his teachers as a "deep-thinker". Of course he is. He's so slow. Goodness knows he takes the time to do it :-)

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Well, I'm 49 and have never been diagnosed with ADHD (and I doubt I will seek a diagnosis for that).  So I'm not going to blame my low energy behavior on ADHD when I don't know it's that.  Everything else tests normal and as long as I'm doing well at work (which I am) and can keep a roof over my head I will just have to accept my limitations.[/quote]

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I do not have a formal diagnosis either, it's rare that someone in my generation would seek one out if we've managed our life so far without major mishap. Yet my husband and my son have diagnosed ADHD (mild mixed type and severe inattentive, respectively), and [i]I can see all my son's documented ADHD traits in myself[/i], albeit milder - so I would probably be diagnosed as mildly inattentive were I to be evaluated.

And yes, I completely agree with you that it is all about accepting yourself as you are. Loving yourself. We are not lazy. We are not piling on the guilt. It's not burnout, except if we really do too much. It's just the way our bodies and brains work.

The real problem is that American society (above all other societies in the world) prizes multitasking and overworking. Not healthy, even for the super-energetic.

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IT's helpful to know that what could come across as simple laziness could actually be inattentive. Adhad, however, you almost seem to be asserting that all f us PP's robably actually have inattentive ADHD. I simply have very low energy levels, I don't have a difficult time focusing at all. Why is it so hard to accept that some people really have less energy than others?  It seems odd to assume that low energy people actually have ADHD. [/quote]

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