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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a friend who did something similar with her husband.  She basically just said, "I decided I'm not going to wait for him anymore."  That is to say, if she wants to go apple picking or something, she just brings their kids and does it.  She'll ask him once, and that's it.

It is definitely a better plan than divorce, and I commend her for keeping her family together, even though her husband is a bit disengaged.  In any case, this kind of leaves them living separate lives, which I think makes them ripe for divorce.  She basically lives like a single mom while her husband does lots of work travel and spends the rest of his time on a hobby.

And please don't think for a second that your husband's behavior doesn't impact your kids.  Maybe find a happy medium?  Outsource more work and downscale to take the stress off of yourself, but don't give up on trying to get him engaged?

I'll mention it because this is DCUM, but the kind of husband you have is absolutely ripe for an affair.  He's depressed/anxious, focused on things outside of the family, and has some money in his pocket.  It can be particularly difficult to predict what kind of mid-life crisis men like that will have.  You should consider the place you'd be in if you divorced.  You might be able to manage quite well on half your savings and whatever job you have, but if half your savings wouldn't make you wealthy, then with a husband like that I wouldn't make a move professionally that could permanently harm your earning potential.

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Agree 100%[/quote]

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