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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wish you luck, OP. My husband and I have a similar dynamic about going out with the kids, because he’s an introvert with a demanding job and I’m an extrovert SAHM. I finally told him we need to either sign them up for activities on the weekends or take them out together, because sitting around the house wishing they would chill out so we could relax wasn’t working. So far we’ve been taking them out...[/quote]

As an introvert mom with a demanding job, this sounds like hell, fwiw.  I understand wanting to get them out of the house, but he's a part of the equation too and life shouldn't continue on as though he is just scenery rather than a member of the family.  Same goes for mom, obviously, but mom's way shouldn't be the winner all the time.[/quote]

His ideal would be a couple of hours of us all sitting in the living room together reading our respective books, sipping tea, occasionally reading particularly good passages aloud. Which I agree sounds delightful! The only problem is that our three year old and baby can’t read. (The 6yo can and we spent her sisters’ naps yesterday doing this. It was wonderful.) But trying to do that while the kids rampage is frustrating and stressful, watching him get stressed makes me unhappy, and the kids aren’t exactly loving it either. I don’t mean to imply that he’s not involved — he’s a great dad, he plays with them and talks to them and teaches them and looks forward to seeing them. My position is not OP’s. But “I will lose my ever-loving mind if I have to sit around the house any longer, I think I’ll take some kids to the library, who wants to come?” is a much more productive thing to do than trying to cajole an imuninterested spouse into coming to the library![/quote]

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