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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am I the only one who doesn't see the big deal that dad denied the affair? Most of you made it sound like that's a bigger crime than the affair itself. I think the affair hurt the daughter way more than the denial.[/quote]

OP said that the cheater essentially called the daughter a liar for reporting what she knew to be true.

Calling a child a liar when they are reporting traumatic events, abuse, etc, is unforgivable. It's like the moms who side with the boyfriends when their daughters report that the boyfriends are molesting them. Or the church-goers who know there's something off about the pastor but deny it when their child reports molestation because they don't want to make any trouble or embarrassment for themselves. It's so unbelievably icky.

It seems like OP wants to leave it all up to her religion and God, blah blah blah. Which smells to me like a BS way of trying to justify doing nothing and refusing to take responsibility for the situation and do what she knows (or should know) is right.

The sad thing is that by now, it's probably too late anyway. The betrayed daughter already knows that her mom thought it was okay that the father called her a liar and is/was considering sweeping things under the rug. If she's a smart girl then she probably would know what the score is now, regardless of what OP ends up doing.[/quote]

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