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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I had a son, not a daughter, but I am a high school teacher, and I would NOT want a daughter (or son) dating at 14.

[b]Encourage her to focus on a hobby or extracurricular.  Encourage her to find friends who HAVE hobbies and interests other than boys.  The kids who are going places have other things going on in 8/9th grade, and they date later.[/quote][/b]

+1[/quote]

[b]Why in the name of Sam Hill do people assume that teens that show interest in dating don’t have hobbies or interests?[/b]  When I was 14 it was extremely common for kids to “go with” each other. We didn’t generally actually go anywhere together, but the kids were generally recognized as a “couple”, although it was typically rather innocent. [b]Has the world really changed so much that teens are so involved with their extracurricular activities that they no longer express interest in the opposite sex?[/b] [/quote]

1.  You didn't read very carefully.  The advice applies to young teens, not teens in general.

2.  Nobody on this thread said that teens who are involved in extracurriculars "no longer express interest in the opposite sex."  However, based upon my observations of well over 1000 13-14 year olds, kids in that age gap who are involved in extracurriculars AT THAT AGE are not the kids who are already "dating."  And they are the kids who are going places.  They will date later on, when they are older, and they will continue to be involved in extracurriculars at the same time.  But to a great extent, intense interest and involvement in dating in 8-9th grade does generally signal a different sort of trajectory for the later years.

[b]There is a big difference between 13-14 year olds dating, and older teens dating[/b].  [/quote]

You do realize that 13-14 year old who "date" aren't really going anywhere, right?[/quote]

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