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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spend more time with her and her fiance. When they have kids, volunteer to watch their kids regularly, and spend more time with them and the grandchildren. Focus on the couple, not his parents. [/quote]

+1. Also +1 to 12:46

As someone very close in age to your daughter and with similar soon-to-be in-laws, I hope you speak up. How absolutely horrible-I would not socialize with them. I do not ask my family to socialize with them outside of wedding events as a sign of respect and courtesy to my family. The few times they have together otherwise did not work out well, to say the least.

For the wedding, we simply (not really) cut off the extended family and warned the immediate family they were next if they didn't behave. We changed where we do (now much more abbreviated) holidays and we spend the majority with my family. We have plans to live further away from his side of the family. We make a joint effort to confront their behavior when it happens around us. She should establish her authority and boundaries asap. They'll grumble but they'll get over it once they realize she's serious.

It is normal to want to be accepted and warmly received by new social groups but tolerating this kind of behavior is inexcusable in *any* company. I hope she does not stay silent in the face of their bigotry and raises her children better. Children imitate what they see.

To the earlier poster who said this kind of behavior is not "right wing"-you are wrong. This is absolutely stereotypical ring wing nonsense. [/quote]

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