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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, troll, but for the most part, this can't be engineered.

It comes out pretty early on (like in daycare) which kids are the popular social ringleader types, usually without parent intervention.

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This. [b]Its amazing what is innate in kids.  Some kids are "mean girls" by age 4. [/b]Not intentionally but they are naturally confident, outspoken, extroverted and kids look to them for guidance and they haven't learned yet how to temper this.  Being naturally attractive helps too.  I think most true introverts will have a much harder go of this. Kids just seem to gravitate to the ring leader in the class. [/quote]

Yes, this part is true, BUT.  Not all confident/outspoken kids are popular.  
I've seen a bunch of confident/outspoken 4th/5th graders who don't pick up on social cues.   They shout answers, they shove their way to the front of the line, etc.

I do think they key to popularity is being socially intelligent while also being gregarious. [/quote]

That's true.  There is one more element to popularity that neither of you has mentioned yet.

Popularity means people long to be with you, but you long for no one.  Popular kids cannot be seen as striving to be with anyone or vulnerable to rejection.  In fact, they can't be rejected because they never ask to be close to anyone; on the contrary, most kids want to be with them.

If there is one element to popularity, it's teaching kids not to care and to never run after anyone who shows any hint of not wanting them.[/quote]

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