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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The real issue is that you, the parent, should take some ownership of your decisions. "I do not allow soda." Not "we don't do". You're trying to dilute it, but it is awkward, incorrect, try-hard and a misuse of the collective pronoun. [/quote]

NP who hasn't read this whole thread so sorry if I'm missing something.

In life you should take ownership of your decisions, but perhaps not in every conversation.  We don't watch a lot of tv on weekdays--that statement is literally correct; and I think it's less awkward than, say, "Their dad don't like the kids to watch a lot of tv on weekdays," or "I personally don't like the kids to watch a lot of tv at all, but their dad lets them watch more on the weekends, " etc.  You just don't need to provide that much information in a simple conversation about this afternoon's agenda.  Likewise, look, if I'm being totally honest, I would say, "My kid doesn't need an afternoon snack because he will fight to the death to keep playing instead of eating, and he'll eat his dinner better if he skips it anyway.  I on the other hand, love afternoon snacks to my own detriment."  But if what you really want to know is whether we all should plan for my kid to want to snack (which is the only time I can imagine offering this sort of info), then, "we don't usually do snacks" is sufficient!

And if you have the energy to muster a care about whether people say, "We don't eat an afternoon snack" vs. "We don't do afternoon snacks," vs. "Larla doesn't eat an afternoon snack," then kudos to you.[/quote]

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