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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is multiple siblings of mine. Out of multiple siblings, only one doesn’t react to make things worse in an urgent situation. The absolute worst is when my mother gets sick- all siblings go haywire with the worst possible response. It’s really harmed my desire to have adult relationships with them. A couple of them have been diagnosed with ADHD, and I have anxiety. We are a mess, but I am the only one with a stable personal and home life- and sometimes it feels like they are dragging me down.

And then I look at my own habits and get concerned that I will end up like them.

OP, just some perspective from the family of origin side. [/quote]

Thank you for your honesty.  I STRONGLY believe that DH has some soul searching to do about his family of origin.  They don't treat each other very well, as a by product of this type of thing that seems to happen all the time.  They don't seem to have much patience for each other.

I thought of something else:  DH seems to "take on" other people's personal problems - examples: DH feels obligated to help friends who are getting divorced, going through money troubles, relationship troubles, job troubles, you name it, he takes it on.  He wants to help everyone, and it becomes too much for him and us to handle.  It is as if he feels bad about having a job and a healthy family or whatever, and has to "redeem himself" because of it. I am talking about close family and "friends", but it is a lot of people, and a lot of work.  He can not possibly help everyone, at the expense of his wife and children.  It is exhausting, especially because we have enough to worry about ourselves.  It's not as if DH is 20 years old, single with no family of his own to take care of (quite the opposite!!) , but people know he won't say no, so they push.  It is positively draining. [/quote]

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