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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a jewish man.  I am not religious.  But, I have lived all my life as a minority and have been ostracized as a child for my religious (lived in the Deep South for a while).

I will not have a Christmas Tree in my house; my house is my oasis from living in a christian society.

With that said, it is completely unfair to require her to not have the symbols in her house.

My solution to that was to only date like minded jews.

It seems to me that if this is a deal breaker, then [b]the relationship needs to end[/b].[/quote]

You mean, or not have begun in the first place? To me it sounds like OP wants it both ways. Christmas cake on the side and "his Jewish house." A bit narcissistic.

If you're going to get involved with someone and certain things are dealbreakers, then vet accordingly. You can't get very serious with someone and then expect them to disown their family, heritage, and the way they are currently bringing up their child. That's unfair and ridiculous. Imagine if it was the other way around, Christian man and the woman was Jewish and expected to not bring a menorah in his Christian house. I mean . . . I don't think anyone here would say go for it. Does the minority status make this case so different? Certainly he can't be accused of anti-Christian-ism, but on the other hand it's not logical to grasp on to your chosen people status with one hand and assimilate with the other. Doesn't work like that.[/quote]

PP here.  The reason it needs to end is because he is placing unreasonable demands on her.  I would have done the same.  But, to avoid that, I only dated people who are jewish.

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