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[quote=Anonymous]There's an old expression:

[b][i]"When you hate someone, you chain yourself to them".[/i][/b]

Hate is so toxic, it will eat away at you & seep it's way into every other manner of your life without you even realizing it's happening. It's like a thick, heavy, dark cloud looming over everything.

Your hate will ALWAYS affect YOU more than the other person, because chances are that other person doesn't care anymore & they never think about you anyway. Isn't that just adding insult to injury knowing that they're hurting you not once but twice?

You're allowing this person to rent space in your head for free. You're allowing them to have control over you and control over your feelings & emotions... that would honestly annoy me FAR more than whatever this person did to me. 
Doesn't it just piss you off even more knowing that this person could be living their very best life, and here you are... still hanging onto this negativity... still allowing it to permeate your life & if that's happening, you certainly are NOT living your best.  You can't be.

Forgive. 
Forgive. 
Forgive.

Nobody is saying you have to forget what they did & you certainly don't have to reach out to that person & inform them that you've forgiven them.  Simply forgive them in your head & [u]never[/u] think about them again. 
You owe this to yourself, as the only person this hate will continue to affect negatively is you.

Why do you think forgiveness is one of the important steps in the 12 steps of addiction?  It's because SO many people start using in the first place to numb the intense feelings of pain, sadness & hate that they have from somebody hurting them.  It's a lot easier to get through the day when you don't have to relive all of those feelings of negativity, which is why drugs are such an easy crutch for someone who probably could benefit from therapy. 
To forgive is to release all of those negative feelings, which will hopefully be one less reason for them to use.

Forgive, OP.
You owe it to yourself. 
You get one life to live, one... only ONE
Why waste another second of it letting poison control you?

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but I'm really trying to give you a wake up call for your own sake.[/quote]

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