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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Take a few days and write it all out, OP.  Imagine that you were sitting in a room with the person and a therapist/negotiator.  Write out long-hand what you would say to that person calmly and factually.  Don’t exaggerate.  Just get it all down on paper including what you did wrong.  Add extenuating circumstances (job burn out, exhaustion, lack of boundaries, etc).  And then let it sit.  Try not to go back to the written document for awhile.  And stop yourself from thinking about what the person did wrong.  It’s down on paper now - you don’t have to think about it.

Put away all pictures or cards/gifts from that person.  Clear your space of him/her.

Pray and meditate for your peace before you pray and meditate on forgiveness for that person.

Change something in your life for the better - get in shape, organize your home, get a handle on finances, set a better sleep-cycle, spend a set amount of time outdoors, etc.

It can take a long time to let go. But these things really helped me after a severe friend betrayal.

All the best to you.  And I am so sorry it happened to you. [/quote]

I may try this.  I'm not dealing with hate but disappointment over an acquaintance's rejection that I spend WAY to much time focusing on.  Have to find a way to let it go. Thanks.[/quote]

+2. Me, too.  This is the best advice I’ve heard! Thank you! [/quote]

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