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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mom always said, "It's just as easy to fall in love with a poor mn as it is a rich man."

I wanted to marry for love.  A true partner.  Mutual respect.  Kindness.  A sense of humor.  A good conversationalist.   While we may be MC by DCUM standards, we know we are wealthy in the real world.  We have everything we need, much of what we want, and most importantly, we are happy with life and each other.  Money had zero impact on the decision.[/quote]

Only people with money have the luxury of saying money doesn't have an impact.

Ask poor people how they feel. Money isn't everything - but it does matter. [/quote]

DP. No way. I challenge you on this. Nobody cares about “marrying well” as much as the rich. Middle class and poor mothers just want their daughters to marry upstanding guys with jobs, preferably before they have babies together. Rich mothers want their daughters to land the right wealthy catch.[/quote]

Challenge all you want. This board is telling. The "divide" people are making are between a teacher and a finance guy. Bwahahaahahaaha How insulated are you? So, if money doesn't matter, you're okay with your spouse working at the car wash. And living where that car wash affords you. And having your kids go to school in the neighborhood that that car wash affords your family - because, you know, love.

Don't tell me - a former poor ass mother - what I wanted. I did with what I had at the time. Yes, you can love someone in the absence of money. But if you think rich people or even middle class people argue and DIVORCE over money - what do you think poor people go through. You act like I'm saying that if a guy isn't rich, I can't love him. Of course I can.

But you all are contradicting yourselves. You say money doesn't matter, but then you say...if he made I teacher's salary I'd love him all the same. Well teachers around here make at least, what $50K? More if at a better school and longer in the system. Would you answer be the same if the guy you met was at $15K? Or what if he didn't have a job but was uber ambitious at his volunteer gig? Would that be okay? Because if not, then you DO have some type of salary requirement - it's just lower than someone else's.[/quote]

Fair enough. I’ve never had a salary requirement because I suppose i always had an education requirment: must be a college graduate. I was never in a dating pool that included anyone who would be making $15k. But you know, no one who has said “yes I have a salary requirement” is saying it’s $50k. They’re saying $200k. This is the kind of salary requirement we can agree is ridiculous.[/quote]

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