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I see you cut out part of my response, so I'll say it again

[u][b]Women who are financially secure on their own are less likely to put up with abuse, addiction and adultery (the three main reasons for divorce). That doesn't mean they need their spouse to out earn them.[/b][/u]

I am financially secure on my own.  I did not/do not have a salary requirement for my husband.  At times he has out earned me, but for the past three years, and for the foreseeable future, I out earn him.  It doesn't matter to my relationship.  I do not think less of him because I have a higher salary.   My marriage is not any more likely to end in divorce than if our earnings were reversed.  Why?  Because we do not (have addiction, abuse or adultery issues.  If any of those issues arose, I do not have as much incentive to stay married because again, I am financially secure on my own.

Spew whatever non-facts you want, but you do not speak for most marriages, especially in the DC metro area where many women are educated with good careers. [/quote]u

You are wrong. If women have financial security, that is irrelevant. Such women [i]still [/i]want their men to out-earn them, and are [i]still [/i]more likely to divorce a man who earns less than them than a man who earns more.

Also, you and your personal anecdotes are irrelevant. They are, to quote you, [i]non-facts[/i]. I am talking about most marriages, you are only talking about you. The overall divorce rate for women who out-earn men, even among women who are educated and have good careers, is higher than the rate for women who do not. [/quote]

Maybe it’s the men who don’t want to be out-earned by their wives. When I married my husband 28 years ago I made more than he did. I didn’t care at all. I don’t think he cared either. I knew he was hard working, ambitious, super smart, kind, wanted the same things in life I did etc etc. Frankly, I’d be proud to make more than he does. For many years we made the same, alas, no longer.[/quote]

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