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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She wants to come. Let her come. Make clear you won't be able to spend much time with her, if any. Why fight over this rather than just be nice and let her come?[/quote]

BECAUSE SHE’S A NUISANCE

god you people are really dense sometimes[/quote]

OP here.  It is this.  I know what will happen.  She will get angry with me for waking up at 4 AM, showering at 5AM, and leaving at 5:30.  I am quiet at home, but hotels are noisier.  There is no place to eat within walking distance of the hotel.  (no hotel restaurant) except for fast food places.

She will be stuck in the hotel (like a Hampton Inn).

Oh, and suggested we take a trip to FL for a three day weekend in Jan.[/quote]

It's ridiculous for her to get mad at you for getting up early to go to work.  It would be ridiculous of her to get annoyed that there is nothing fun to do around the hotel and no good places to eat.  If your meetings are all out in suburbia nowhereville than she has to realize that she would be paying all that money to literally hang out at the hotel pool and that dinner would be McDonald's.

I've gone on business trips with my husband and I had fun because we were in a fun location and I'm good about entertaining myself.  He was there on business so he told me if/when he was free.   We didn't make big plans for any given evening because I knew that a work dinner could come up.  Instead, we just enjoyed the free time that he did have to spend with me.

It's not a vacation.  You will be at work and you have to get up early.  Tell her that.  "Honey, you are welcome to come but I think you'll be bored.  This is the hotel that we'll be staying out.  These are the things around the hotel.  As you can see, there isn't much there.  This is my work schedule.  I am not going to have a lot of free time to spend with you and I'll be having to go to bed early because I have to get such an early start.  Are you sure that you wouldn't rather spend that money on a nice weekend away, just the two of us?  Because I think that we would both enjoy ourselves a lot more."

If she still INSISTS on coming along, let her.  She apparently needs to see what these trips are like.[/quote]

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