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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mom of a ADHD, borderline ASP 12 year old boy here. This behavior would definitely within the rhelm of possibly for my kid. I’d be really disappointed, but not shocked.

Not sure why everyone is suggesting that electronics be taken away. How is that at all related to what he did and how will it teach him anything about what to do when he’s feeling out of control???

The solution is going to be a combination of looking at how the nanny is handling him and what her role was in triggering him (maybe she should have just left him home to be cranky and cool down); having a calm discussion with him about what happened and what he thinks should be done; and possibly including the therapist or looking at meditation management. Unless he’s new to meds, he should should have some sense about how well its working.

Also suggest Ross Greene if you don’t know him. [/quote]

I agree with you. My son, age 12, also with a mood disorder, hit me on multiple occasions. My first reaction, of course, was to double down on the punishment but that just made him more and more uncontrollable. With the help of a good family therapist we were able to take steps like above and improve our relationship, with the understanding that violence is never an acceptable response. (Therapy also brought to light that DS needed more attention from his father.)  I can happily report that at age 20, he is a high functioning college student, a good employee, and a kind boyfriend and friend. This doesn't need to end badly --at age 12, I could only imagine a bad future. Call in the professionals, you cannot figure out all of this on your own. [/quote]

Good advice here.   
OP,
Call in *actual* professionals. 
 Not dcum “professionals” [eyeroll][/quote]

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