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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mom of a ADHD, borderline ASP 12 year old boy here. This behavior would definitely within the rhelm of possibly for my kid. I’d be really disappointed, but not shocked.

[b]Not sure why everyone is suggesting that electronics be taken away. How is that at all related to what he did and how will it teach him anything about what to do when he’s feeling out of control???[/b]

The solution is going to be a combination of looking at how the nanny is handling him and what her role was in triggering him (maybe she should have just left him home to be cranky and cool down); having a calm discussion with him about what happened and what he thinks should be done; and possibly including the therapist or looking at meditation management. Unless he’s new to meds, he should should have some sense about how well its working.

Also suggest Ross Greene if you don’t know him. [/quote]

Some consequences are punitive rather than corrective in nature. Physical violence, in my opinion, warrants both a punitive and a corrective response. The taking away of things that DC likes is in the PUNITIVE category and is not designed to "teach" him/her about what to do when he/she is feeling out of control. It is designed to "teach" him/her that unwise choices result in unpleasant consequences, such as loss of privileges. You can also add to that lessons on what to do when you are feeling out of control. But that would be IN ADDITION to the punitive consequence. Just my two cents.[/quote]

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