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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You handed her the weapon by telling her what NOT to do. If she has a history of going against your wishes, why do you think she wouldn't have done exactly what she did?

If you were really fine with the announcement that she was going to buy ice cream, you might have said "OK, see you later," not "OK, but first let me put the idea of buying this other thing in your mind, even though I DEFINITELY don't want you to buy it."[/quote]

This.  If you relax about your sacrosanct "boundaries," you take away the impetus for this stuff.  Stop telling her what NOT to do, stop acting so uptight about crap that doesn't matter, and you drop the rope.  There's nothing to pull against.  If she does something genuinely unsafe or dangerous, fine, pull out the big guns.  But I bet she just gets a kick out of tweaking your uptight, drama-prone nose.  Is that nice of her?  No, it is not, and if she were asking for advice, I'd tell her to knock it off.  But she isn't, and so the advice to you is to drop the gloves and let some things roll off your back.  The next time she does something you'd rather she didn't, don't make a big deal of it.  It will throw her for a loop, I guarantee it.  [/quote]

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