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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let it go.  Don’t rely on him next time.  My DH has ADHD and I would never count on him to wash my clothes.[/quote]

Come on, all it sounds like he had to do was move clothes from the washing machine to the dryer. What kind of person are you that married someone who is literally incapable of being an adult? Shit, I could move the laundry along when I was a kid in middle to late elementary school. [/quote]

+1 I’m astonished by the men some of these women on this board marry, the things they let them get away with, and the excuses they make. He’s an adult, not a child. If he can’t move laundry from the washer to dryer and get groceries how is he functioning in every day life?![/quote]

Agreed. Don't breed with people who can't take responsibility. ADHD is no excuse.[/quote]

this all day. It's one thing if a condition onsets after saying I do, but if someone has known and documented issues that are difficult to manage, zero sympathy for those who marry them or procreate with them anyway (I am talking to you, half-sister). Certain conditions or disorders may be prone to never improve or get worse over time. Family aside, I have also have a college girlfriend who married someone with anxiety, OCD and he is a mama's boy. She knew him for 6 years before they dated. She knew his ex-girlfriend who eventually ran away screaming. She dated him for 2 years then married him anyway. Her sob stories are are exhausting. We all knew how he was before you married him so why did you![/quote]

Full disclosure? I didn’t know how bad it was until after we got married and were buying a house, dealing with real life adult problems. Therapy helped. Establishing household duties helped. In the past I will often ask him 1 thing at a time and or write down a list for him to do and he can focus on that and is successful. He’s not a completely inept buffoon.

In my life before I met him I was independent and took care of everything myself, I don’t mind taking care of things at home and this incident does not happen often. Also, I regularly leave cupboard doors open and do things that drive him crazy. I’m very type A and he’s a distractible type B.

It was just extra annoying for him to come home and complain that I couldn’t make it and people were asking why I wasn’t there but I was picking up his slack and trying to take care of myself in the meantime. I’m over it now. [/quote]

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