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[quote=Anonymous]Op, while this is annoying that your inlaws did this, they did so at the permission of your DH. That is the real issue at play here. It is not you and DH vs. Inlaws, it is you vs Inlaws/DH.

I would never be overly rude to guests no matter how much i want them out of my house, BUT that does NOT mean you have to continue 'hosting' past day 5. As others have said you need to see what would make your DH stand up and take notice and be so inconvenienced that the thought of a repeat next year gives him chills. 
For my husband that would be cooking/having to talk to his parents alone at night. He HATES 1:1 time with them so you can be damn sure i would be in  bed snuggled with a good Halmark movie on the 6th night after the kids went to bed. I would  brag up how important home cooked meals are and then ask DH in front of them what he is planning to cook. I would not buy extra food for any day past 5 and tell them to ask DH if they need more. 
I woudl take the kids to a friends all day and work from Starbucks or at the library or something while the kids played. Anything to not give them access to the kids all day.

I would go about my business as if they weren't there and smile and say 'sorry i am busy but i really could only take the days off I had agreed to, now the kids and i have plans, sorry!!", "See what Larlo is doing about lunch, by!"

The kicker for DH also be having to clean up their room when they leave. He hates the though of touching sheets he parents slept on for some reason so you can be sure i would be making him clean that room when they left and not touch a thing.

Ultimately you need to see why he caved. If it is because he really didn't agree. Did he really want a 10 day visit, was it the cost. What was it and come up with a compromise that is ok should that happen again. 
Either way, i would fuss if they ever tried to stay with us again because they can't be trusted. The bitter part of me woudl tell them we are visiting for 10 days the next visit to them but then leave after 2 and say, "Sorry, we got a cheaper flight" "You know how it is!"[/quote]

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