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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone who has been fat as well as average, I think OP is putting too much emphasis on "oh well it's because i was fat".  [/quote]
+1. I have plenty of friends who are overweight yet got married in their early 30's or even late 20's (yes, despite being overweight) and are still happily married.  Not sure why everyone is emphasizing weight so much. Plenty of thin people are also single in their 40's.  OP, you didn't find the right person you wanted to marry, and I would leave it at that. [/quote]

I think the weight thing significantly limited Op's dating pool.  Back when I was dating I would go out with a group of friends to a club and, invariably, the chubby girls were almost always the ones left sitting at the table while the rest of us were asked to dance.

I got hit on all the time when I was at my ideal weight.  If I put on only 10 or 15 pounds on my fairly small frame, I would notice a decline in interest from the opposite sex.  The weight thing is real and wasn't just an excuse. I can see how Op perceived that she was having a harder time meeting guys.

Chubby girls do get married all the time [b] but they generally didn't meet their husbands in love at first sight scenarios.  They often met when a friendship blossomed into something else.  I think that's true of "normal weight" women, too, but thinner women also attract more attention from strangers across a crowded room.[/quote]

There’s a big difference between chubby and 270 pounds[/quote]

Yes, there is.  And if Op spent most of her young adult life that overweight that would have been really hard.

My point was to validate Op's impression that her weight played a role in men not being interested in her.  It absolutely, most certainly did.  [/quote]

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