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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What you're describing isn't normal, no. I'm successful and my husband supports my career. He doesn't like me traveling and is annoyed when I am home late. But he has never asked me to quit. [/quote]

This. [/quote]

+2. I don't like it when he travels and he's home late, either, and when I'm frazzled, I can be bitchy about it. And he's in the military, so it's not like it was a huge surprise!

[b]What's getting to you is that he seems to be pretty clear that these are your responsibilities and not his, or, not yours as a part of a team running this family. [/b][b]Have you had that particular conversation with him: "Honey, do you think the kids and the house are primarily my responsibility? Why?" [/b]And see whether he's a chauvinist ass or just clueless and hasn't really thought about it.[/quote]

Bingo.  There is no solution that is going to work (you changing jobs, if you quit and stayed at home etc.) if you don’t address the underlying issue.  Start the conversation there.  I would also add maybe he has pre-conceived notions from growing up or what he sees with co-workers.  Maybe he doesn’t have role models of involved parenting from dads or he thought you were on the same page. There are some woman that want to be primary/default parent.

I will echo the pp that I also am not a fan of work travel for DH or late nights.  That said, he has cut back on work travel since we had kids, he more than pulls his weight daily, and brings in reinforcements when needed (his parents) I have no resentment. [/quote]

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