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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Uh the “foreign Asians” who tend to do well here do well bc of selective immigration policies. They don’t just let anyone in. The biggest boom post 1965 was specifically for highly educated Asians who came here for grad school. More recently ther has been a return to preferencing people with money and education. It’s not just a random sampling of people from Asia. [/quote]

Yes and no. Sure there was in a wave in the 70s and another in the early/mid 2000s that was mostly engineers/IT. They came in via sponsorships for jobs or for grad school; so of course with parents like that, the kids will do well bc their parents expect a lot re education, know about various professions etc. But there have been MANY waves otherwise where not so educated Asians have come in thru visa lotteries, chain migration thru their one successful brother in the US etc. These are the people you often see at nail salons, Motel 6, 7-11s, random secretaries in medical offices, random office jobs, taxi drivers, jobs in NYC restaurants etc. Sure some of the folks at nail salons, Motel 6, 7-11 are actual business owners; they were able to hustle in whatever jobs they could find in America until they had just enough to take out loans to buy a franchise/business and ultimately they do well. But all the others you see at Dunkin Donuts etc. -- those are employees, making min wage usually. Yet whether you talk to an Asian doctor or Dunkin cashier -- the goals for their kids are ALWAYS the same -- medicine, engineering, law, or finance (and I say finance only bc I grew up in NY metro where everyone understands the riches of Wall Street; say finance to my family in Texas and they act horrified as they have visions of their child managing a Verizon store for 40k/yr or being a cold calling insurance salesmen) AND going to an ivy/similar school.

Honestly how many Asian kids do you know who say to you they're gonna go to college to be teachers or work in non profits or change the world bc that's their passion? They are raised to make SOLID money first and THEN if they want to do something else later in life like start a business or whatever, that's their choice. All of the Asians I grew up with (some w aforementioned engineer parents; some with convenience store parents) all went to the absolute best school that accepted them -- often ivys even if it meant serious parental and child sacrifice via loans -- and all are now doctors; engineers; lawyers; or on wall street. The engineers/lawyers/finance folks went to good enough schools to be recruited into major engineering firms, biglaw, and investment banking. We're all in our mid-late 30s now and some have already started to "step back" their careers bc they feel they made the $$. But lets be honest, 10+ yrs in biglaw or at Goldman gives you options that gov't lifers or non profit or social workers just don't have.

So go into teaching or social work or whatever your passion projects are, no one says you shouldn't. But don't act like it 's some mystery how certain nationalities are uplifting themselves/remaining financially solid generation after generation even if they don't come from money. Honestly what happened with Asians for 20-30 yrs in the US now seems to be  happening with Nigerian Americans now.[/quote]

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