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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ That list is ridiculous.  Lots of shit just made up to seem busy.

"Interface with grandparents"? Get over yourself.  [/quote]

I don’t know. If I didn’t prod DH we would never send holiday cards or call his family. [/quote]

[b]Are holiday cards REALLY that important? 
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It’s this attitude that minimizes emotional labor. I agree, holiday cards are not that important, sending a picture is not that important, writing one thank you note is note is not that important, planning one visit is not that important.

No individual action is that important, but if nobody does any of this, then pretty soon you have grandparents who have no relationship with their grandchildren. Most people don’t want to become estranged from their families through inertia. Your attitude is exactly why women get so frustrated when conversations about emotional labor comes up. It’s easy to ridicule each individual action, but it’s pure drudgery to have to always be the one to think about this stuff.

These are tasks that only get noticed when they are not done. There is no appreciation for doing it and only blame when it gets overlooked - “What? How hard is it to write my mom a thank you note? You couldn’t spend 3 minutes doing that?” [/quote]

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