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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is so crazy about the list?  Are the people who responded not parents yet?  Because it seemed like a pretty realistic list of what is expected of parents today.  [/quote]

parent of 3 teens/pre-teens.  this list is just plain stupid and does nothing more than to make yourself feel socially equal/superior to others.  Majority of those things are not essential or even necessary and zero bearing on the well-being of any child.[/quote]

To me, it's not the actual doing of things, it's keeping track of everything -- the mental load.  That is the burden of the default parent -- who must remember that now is the time to schedule the doctor appointment or else she's booked up and you need that school med form, to keep an eye on that rash, to bring in money to contribute to the teacher gift, to buy a present for the birthday party that weekend.  So many things to remember.  So that list seemed realistic to me.

Sure, you can opt out of things, but sometimes it is an effort to do so and you might be cut of a lot of things.  Do I have to contribute to the teacher gift?  No, but seems rather selfish of me to do so.  Do I need to go to the birthday party or the playdate?  No, but it's polite to respond and tell the person who invited me that we are not coming.  My child may be upset that she didn't get to go to the party, I will have to deal with that.

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