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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your earlier thread about the house sharing situation implied that you were the one initiating the divorce, but here you say she's the one who initiated a fault-based divorce due to adultery? What's going on here?[/quote]

I initiated the divorce and we agreed to keep it out of court. She said she wanted me to take the lead on everything since I was the one wanting the divorce. She wanted me to draft the separation agreement and file the necessary papers. I don't think she realized that I was serious about moving forward with the divorce.

Once DW realized that things were serious and we really were moving towards divorce she became extremely manipulative and began alienating me from my daughter. DW lied and went back on everything that we had agreed upon. She lawyered up thereby forcing me to lawyer up.

We were on track for a no fault divorce after the year separation period. After months of going back and forth between the lawyers and not getting anywhere she and her lawyer filed for an at fault divorce and pendent lite hearing.

She told her lawyer so many lies at every turn. If you have never dealt with a narcissist before you are very lucky. The lies and manipulation and emotional abuse are enough to make you question your sanity. [/quote]

What jurisdiction are you in? In most places you can't file for a fault-based divorce on the grounds of adultery without independent corroboration of the adultery (e.g., emails between you and the AP).[/quote]

Prince William.

It's more than likely going to end up being a no fault divorce because she basically just took everything and threw it against the wall to see what would stick, including lies.  A lot of lies that she told we unpacked during the pendente lite which is the reason I believe she didn't get any of the other stuff she was asking for alimony, spousal support, lawyer fees, lump sum payments, etc[/quote]

So now you're changing your story and you didn't cheat?[/quote]

I never said anything about cheating. DCUM assumed.[/quote]

In Virginia, the grounds for fault-based divorce are adultery, felony conviction resulting in a sentence of more than a year where the couple did not resume cohabiting after the sentence was issued, cruelty (abuse), or desertion of at least one year. You said earlier there was no abuse. You were still living in the house as of last May, so that would tend to rule out felony conviction and desertion. That leaves only adultery as the possible grounds for a fault-based divorce.[/quote]

Yea, sorry OP - fess up or move along.  If you cheated, it's ironic you call your wife a narcissist...[/quote]

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