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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I try not to worry about this too much. Certainly the former nerds rule the world now, so I mostly focus on making sure my kids are happy not popular. [/quote]

Meh. Most popular kids go on to be extremely successful in life.[/quote]

Not true at all. Not from my experience or others I've talked with about this subject matter. In fact, the less popular kids from my high school grew up to be much more successful. (I was a floater, and so was not in any particular group, and I am middle of the road successful) [/quote]

No PP is right and it makes sense bc popular kids have honed their social skills and that will continue to serve them well throughput life. In this area, the popular kids are also likely to be excelling academically and in extracurriculars so that old idea of popular kids just fade out after high school isn’t going to be true. They go on to be successful in college and life. I graduated from hs in this area 20 yrs ago and the popular kids went on to be very successful adults.[/quote]

[b]Off topic, but I agree 100%, the “dumb popular jocks and blondes” stereotype couldn’t be farther from the truth today. Don’t get me wrong, popularity doesn’t equal success. I just notice that the kids that [i]seem[/i] to be really “popular”/ don’t have issues making friends/ invited to all the parties, seem to all around really well adjusted, i.e. good grades,AP and honors classes, lots of sports, lots of extracurriculars, very extroverted[/b].

I don’t know if it’s because this is an extrovert’s world or what, just seems to be what I notice. [/quote]

I agree with this 100%  DCUM equates popularity with the popularity of their own childhoods--the good looking but not so bright promiscuous kids.

In my reality (3 kids now in middle and high school), the popular kids are the the ones who just have their "$%it together" in every walk of life:  They're good looking, very bright, athletic, charismatic, extroverted ,excel in everything they try, etc".    They just have "it" and they're rocking life. [/quote]

I agree with us. I don’t know if a lot of the posters here struggles socially in high school or not but the stereo type of popular = mean is definitely not true, especially for boys. The key in my opinion is to find your people. If your kid doesn’t like sports don’t force him to hang out with the sporty kids. If your daughter is not into clothes don’t make her wear with the cool kids are wearing. Everyone will be happier if we don’t project our own insecurities onto the kids.[/quote]

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