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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not to start a new thread but I’m in the same boat.  Is - early 40s and I am fit and exercise, eat healthy and my DW tries but does a horrible job of it.  If I don’t cook, she eats like crap.  We have a 2 YO at home that is a shitty sleeper.  DW is a bit depressed and is about 20 pounds overweight and it’s all in her gut.  She binge eats crappy food, doesn’t exercise despite my attempts to take her to the gym.  Couple that wth having other marital issues, I have zero desire for sex with her.  She scolded me the other day for never wanting to have sex with her (I initiate 100% anyhow).  I didn’t say anything but I’m wondering if I should be brutally honest with her and real talk her or give her a soft landing?[/quote]

Your wife could have diastasis recti (ab separation), which would make it look worse. I suspect this if it is all in her gut. It is very common after pregnancy. I had it with my second. Took me years to finally get it fixed with physical therapy plus weight loss. I finally look like my hot body self from before kids but it literally took me three years after the second kid. She should see a physical therapist to see if that is her problem. [/quote]

I was just about to post about DR, mine is so bad my doctor said I need surgery to see the muscles back together and he gave me some referrals.  [/quote]

Don’t think this is it.  She’s 5’ tall and extra weight either goes to her boobs or her belly.  She had this issue long before pregnancy [/quote]

She probably needs to cut carbs.  Maybe she could try Keto for awhile?  It's actually a pretty flexible diet and you don't miss starches/sugars nearly as much as you would think.  I've lost 20 pounds in 2 months on this diet along with some intermittent fasting.  I've even cheated a bit on the weekends - nothing too drastic.

Go on the diet with her, that'll make it easier for her to stick with it.  Her appetite will stabilize when her blood sugar levels stop going berzerk.

Her energy level will go up dramatically once she starts tapping her own stored energy.  She will probably even want to hit the gym with you - just introduce exercise slowly.  At this point, focus on increasing how many steps you take in a day.  If she was taking 3000 steps a day last week, go for 4000 a day this week.  Then up it until she is taking 8-10K steps every day.

I get steps in just going up and down all the aisles at Walmart and Target.  Good luck to both of you![/quote]

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