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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I totally get it, it's very annoying. MY MIL does this all the time - according to her my kids are 90% her (not her husband though - there is zero of that despite obvious resemblance); 5% her son (my husband) and 5% me. she will seek remote relative s on her own side to explain was obviously coming from my side. She will also claim things that all babies do are unique to her son (e.g. my son's poop was this exact color") . all this is especially annoying because my parents have passed always and are not there to provide a balance. [/quote]

I say this gently, but is it possible some of your annoyance is not hearing your own parents say the same things?[/quote]

my parents are dead. I doubt they would do the same thing - I knew how they reacted to their first grandchild (my sister's daughter) and it was very far from "this is us us us". if anything it was the opposite - like, she doesn't seem to be pulling much from our family.

In any case my MIL is perfectly aware my parents are not able to balance her idiocy but rather than acknowledging that the children must have something in common with them, too, that merely emboldens her. it is also telling that she never says the kids look like her husband (my husband's father). it's always only her and her ever more remote relatives. it's really a sadistic move, not loving as someone clueless people here are assuming. [/quote]

There is a theory that nature makes newborns and babies resemble the father and his people so the father knows it is his child and does not reject the mother or baby.

Over time the real features come out, once the dad has accepted the child as his own.[/quote]

this theory has been refuted stop with the garbage [/quote]

You need a little less anger.

Your MIL raised the man you love.  She wants a connection with her child's child.  That is perfectly normal and completely loving.

Try looking at her from a filter of one who will someday be a MIL yourself.[/quote]

if resemblance is necessary for connection then my MIL, by hoarding all resemblance, is preventing me from connecting to my own children. that just your own logic.

you clearly don't have any experience with this and don't understand that this is specifically designed to hurt others - it's not something innocent minor or well meaning.[/quote]

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