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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At first I thought you used a donor but because you didn't, there is ZERO reason children need to know this. I guess if they asked you could answer if you are comfortable doing so, but the only reason someone would need to know this is if they themselves had trouble conceiving. For that purpose, I think you'd tell them as an adult.

Frankly, I would be somewhat concerned that my teen might assume wrongly that this makes them less likely to run into teen pregnancy issues, and I don't want that assumption being made! On the other end of the spectrum, I had a friend who was aware of her aunt's fertility issues, loved this aunt, and assumed she would inevitably have fertility issues herself, which kind of messed with her mind a little bit. Not necessary and totally avoidable. [/quote]

I haven't read all the responses, but I'm in the "what's the big deal" camp.  And, given that there are at least a few of us, I wonder if you have relatives that knew of the IVF and could let that information slip out to your kids.  I'd tell them just to avoid them hearing it from someone else.  I think my teens know that their cousins were conceived by IVF and I sure as hell hope their parents have told them. (BTW-I never made a point of telling my kids, but it's come up natural conversation about conception/fertility and frankly it never occurred to me that it would be a secret because it wasn't a secret at the time of the treatments). [/quote]

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