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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have to talk to her! I kind of had this dynamic with DH. and it was not that I didn't want to be married to him. I am just tapped out and it felt, sometimes, like another person wanting something from me. From waking up at 5:30 am with kids and dealing with that to work to coming home and dealing with dinner, kids, bath, bedtimes, and their constant neediness, by the time I get into bed I crave solitude.

HOWEVER, I also heard Dh loud and clear when he told me that he didn't crave solitude and that he was feeling rejected and unloved. So I told him how I felt, but also that I recognized my behavior was not conducive to a strong marriage. I am now more attentive to him, and his needs, and I try to carve out time for "us."  He is more attentive to my needs for some space and will also try to give me some down time away from the kids.

the other thing we had to discuss is that DH thought we had equal work with the kids. Its true that we both work and are hands on with them, but they just cling to me much, much more, physically, emotionally, etc. The other part I had to explain is that the mental labor is 100% mine, so while we each put a kid to bed, right after he's surfing the web at night and I'm emailing the teacher, putting the appointments on the calendar, filing out the form or paying tuition, planning the bday party, buying plane tickets, enrolling kid in classes, etc. He has never done any of that and I had to explain that it was like there was always something to do, and my brain had a hard time shifting away from mom/multitask mode to partner/intimate mode.  [/quote]

Not OP, but anytime I try to have any discussion with DW she blows it into an argument. I never feel like I am heard and nothing gets resolved. This isn't even over the sex talk, this is just about anything that may have happened that I want to discuss with her  [/quote]

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