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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think unstructured time is good for kids and, with so many planned activities these days, kids get too little of that kind of time. [/quote]

I completely agree. I also agree with the poster who simply said, DH wants a wife. You’re not being a wife.

I was a kid who was limited to one activity at a time. Yes, this meant choosing. But this allowed me to be a good teammate for the sport I chose that season (I.e., not missing practices or games yet expecting to play, being there and working hard, not being distracted by other obligations) and taught me to be dedicated and focused. It allowed me down time to get all of my homework done and get good grades. And I also had time for my family and to spend with my friends—which was usually constructive, bike riding with friends or making up games to play with my brother. All great things.

You may be having sex with your husband (though with a 3 year old living in the room? WTF, how does this work?) but you’re not being a wife. It doesn’t seem like you’re giving him ANY priority in your life. Don’t you want to model a loving, fun, healthy relationship for your kids? Would you want your daughter to marry a man who’s just there to cart kids around? Would you want your sons to marry a woman who treated him like a taxi driver and maid? He needs nurturing and attention, too. We all do. It’s not weak to say so. The only people that would make fun of him for wanting attention from you are insecure because they know they’re treating their husband—you know, the man who is supposed to be your one true love—poorly. [/quote]

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