Reply to DH constantly getting into power struggles with teen DD

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "DH constantly getting into power struggles with teen DD"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Except she is not actually late. He got angry at being challenged about his own tone, not at her lateness, which did not exist. [/quote]

Not defending DH here, but the poster(s) who keep saying that DD was not late, I disagree.
She wasn't late for the BUS, but she was late for the agreed on time to get in the car- Dad and other kids in the car pool were all in the car waiting.  As someone who drives kids to the busstop- I understand there is a big difference, we plan on leaving home at a certain time and we easily make it to the bus, even if we hit two red lights or have to wait for someone who causes a backup turning left.  Alternatively, we can leave 2 minutes later and every light and turning car is stressful.  Kids run to the bus and may or may not get seats with their friends.  Not missing the bus does not mean you were not late.

I also feel it's significant that this exchange occurred in front of others who are not family members - poor judgment on both Dad and daughter's part.

[/quote]

OMG, this is not about the bus and being on time to walk out the door!  OP's DH and DD are struggling in many aspects of their relationship, this is just an example.  OP has already said that they were ACTUALLY NOT LATE.  DH likes to be really early.  The DH made her walk because he didn't like her response, not because she was late--I think someone pointed this out upthread.

OP, I was the one who described how this not speaking destroyed my relationship with my father.  Everyone on here keeps focusing on the car ride to the bus and your DD messing up the schedule.  Believe me, the next step your DD will take is being completely willing to walk to school so she doesn't have to deal with her father at all.  Her thought process will be "Fine, I can't get there myself, I don't need you."  And some dude in a 1995 Camaro with tinted windows will be showing up at your door taking her to school.  [/quote]

That's a huge stretch.  Just because you had poor behavior with your Dad as a teen and your parents allowed it does not mean this is the situation and you are projecting your poor behavior.

OP, Dad and daughter need to help daughter get more organized at night so she isn't so rushed and running back for things.  This needs more hands on parenting, not hands off.[/quote]
I am not pp you replied to. I also posted about the not talking being the abuse here. You might be the parent who does the same thing to her kids, if you can see what a major issue that is. Read up online just how abusive and damaging it is when a parent refuses to talk to the child that lives with him in the same house. Above pp is right, all this harpign about being on time, is absolutely not relevant. Dad is acting abusive.[/quote]

Having a kid walk to the bus stop is not abusive as she wasn't ready and its a constant battle.  It isn't abusive to tell your kid that their attitude is poor and the consequence is walking.  My kids have everything ready to go the night before and I drive them to school.  We don't have the luxury of buses at our public.[/quote]

You lack reading comprehension, or you just don't read posts? Let me spell it for you.  Dad is wrong to treat his dd with silent treatment for hours and days on end.  THAT IS ABUSIVE![/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics