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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I've got an[u] odd one[/u] to continue this thread.[/b]..DW tells me "I'm attracted to you but am not into wanting sex right now."  She cites fatigue, some depression and some self image issues.  I get it and try to help her as much as I can but I can see this leading to months of no sex.[/quote]

Not that odd.  I've had my DW say similar things.  Insists, with heartfelt and sincere tone, even some tears, that she still finds me attractive and sexy...but still has very little interest in sex beyond once a week (or less) duty sex.  I'd bet a large sum of money other guys will chime in with similar stories soon enough. [/quote]

Yup. I've heard essentially this. "I want to want to have sex" is something I hear. [/quote]

[b]Make it interesting and different.[/b] Trust she would have sex with a new person if that was an option on the table.  Women get bored way faster than men[/quote]

Most married women who are bored aren't bored with the [i]same old sex[/i], they're bored with the [i]same old husband[/i].  My DW, I'm certain, would be swinging from the chandeliers and doing all sorts of things she's not interested in doing with me if I were a new guy.

With me? She just wants the same old thing and to get it over with quickly so she can go back to Facebook. Mind you, I'm a certified expert at giving her the big O at this point.  I know EXACTLY what to do and if I wanted to I COULD get it done in about two minutes or less (not counting the 10-20 minutes of warming up she requires) but I make it last longer so I can enjoy the experience.  Who knows when the next time will be? I do change things up, but I do it slowly over time because otherwise she'll shut me down.  There are things I do to her now that drive her over the top that previously she would never even let me try that are key to the intensity of her pleasure.

Doesn't matter though, nothing I do, NOTHING I DO, makes her want it more than once a week.  And that's everything from doing the lion's share of the housework, 90% of the cooking, and all of the yardwork, being a great dad, being in great shape with abs and everything and being good in bed. None of it makes up for the fact that I'm the same old boring husband with the same old boring penis she has seen every day for the last 17 years.[/quote]

DW here. Your post cracked me up. You sound like a great guy and I feel for you. Why don’t you guys try pretending to be other people? Hell, I may try that with my own DH. And you guys are spot on- “I want to have sex.” ...But not with you![/quote]

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