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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To echo some of what's been said in this thread, I would not be intimidated or put-off by a mom friend with a 15,000 square foot house.  But, it does say something about how she and her DH choose to spend money, and, potentially, their social background.  The truly wealthy (and I know a handful, from college) might have huge estates, but they would never, ever send their children to public school.  The solidly wealthy, who grew up wealthy, don't feel any need to have a 15K square foot house, and tend to be more subtle with their money.   Having a 15K square foot house screams: Look at me!  I have money now!  in a way that's not super classy.

That said, I would totally not eliminate a mom friend for having a house that size, [b]especially if she was open about her insecurities, or joked about the size of her home, etc.  I would find that endearing[/b].[/quote]

I would not find it endearing.  I would find it fakey.  I'd be like, "Ok, honey, but you and your spouse DID buy this house, so don't try to pretend you had nothing to do with this."  Unless you were just a passive wife, and let your husband make all the decisions about the  house?  And that would be offputting to me too, and also say that you and I are different.  [/quote]

Right.  Because everyone who lives in a big house is insecure and "fakey" (WTF does that even mean??)?  And how old are you to speak that way?

OP, some of the kindest, most successful and most genuine people I know live in big houses that have (GASP!) tasteful decorators (not some neighborhood schlub). The stereotyping and envy on this thread is extremely obvious. As for PP's statement - class is 100% how you treat other people, like it or not.  So many posters here don't seem to know anyone nice - big house or not.  Or are they simply defending what they can afford to live in - I get it, but back off of those with more than you - your resentment is glaring.

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