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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t believe in equal share custody. No such thing.[/quote]

How so? Court-appointed split of calendar year or intervals of time shared. Seems pretty simple to implement. Also gives both parents a chance to see their children. [/quote]

I'm divorced and ex-DH and I get along and coparent well.  The kid definitely would not like a 50/50 split of time.  DH's job is much more inflexible than mine and he works a lot and travels on a regular basis for work.  There are also circumstances where both parents can't afford housing in the same neighborhood due to income disparity, which could mean each home is zoned for different schools.  I have a bigger home and do the bulk of the after school activities because my house is the base and we don't live right next door to each other.  He pays child support.   Having that one size fits all policy isn't a good idea.  I'm all for that as the starting point, but you have to take into consideration the individual circumstances.  My good friend's husband is a consultant who is gone during the week and is home on the weekend.  How would the no child support/equal custody rule work there?  I would be fine with the equal custody/no child support if we lived in the same neighborhood so we had the same school zone, and if ex-DH had a job where he was home on a regular basis.  That just isn't the case.  [/quote]

All the things you describe here are valid and exactly why I applauded that crazy judge a couple of years ago who suggested the the KIDS be awarded the family home and the parents need to figure out how to move in and out during their custody weeks! As a child from a broken home whose life was seriously disrupted due to my parents' divorce, I was cheering--YES!!!!  The two of them were able to "move on" and go about their lives with minimal disruption after the initial chaos of the divorce. But I was 8 and had to put up with being shuttled back and forth between two places and two bedrooms and two sets of clothes (or remember to bring the ones I wanted with me!)...every week for the next 10 years. Misery!
And if the parents were forced to experience this, maybe they'd figure out it's not worth the hassle and stay married![/quote]

That would require a divorced situation to have three residences. The main house, and the parents each have separate places to go to. I think very, very few divorced families could afford something like that arrangement. And of course it makes it difficult for either parent to move on with their own lives as well, to date and remarry. Your own situation may have been challenging, but quite a few divorced kids grow up just fine and dandy. [/quote]

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