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[quote=Anonymous]Op here with an update.

So last night for cocktail hour my husband and I were chatting with another couple. It was a bit crowded but outside and the entrance was to my back. She literally bounced in the circle and rubbed up against his shoulder with a half hug all while laughing. It was a strange approach. She then saw me got a little wide eyes and moved around my husband and onto the other couple. I don’t attend these often and I am sure she was surprised. She didn’t speak at all to me, which is fine. I was bothered by her entrance dance and hug though a little I guess.

Before, during and at the end of dinner my husband mentioned at least three times that he was worried about where she was sitting and whom she was sitting with, since she was not at the three tables that the other “10” were at. He was worried that she didn’t get the same treatment as the rest of the 9 guys.

This am I finally brought it up to him and he admitted that he was surprised she completely ignored me again tonight. I asked about the liquor and he admitted that it was a bit much. He said if one of his buddies of the group of 10 had a bad day or week he would bring a bottle to the guys office, share a drink and brink the bottle home. His almost $75- $100 (i looked it up) bottle is still at his office apparently unopened. Bottles of liquor are norm for transfers, going always, not bad days typically in this setting. He also said that they do not talk or text outside of meetings when i asked this am. Maybe they don’t text but I am sure they talk in person or phones or both.

Idk, honestly I am a bit on edge with it. I feel like the behavior is on the line almost crossing into too much of an emotional friendship. I believe 100 percent there is not an affair, nor do I believe my husband has the hots for her. She is not his type as she is a bit heavy and just average. I believe that he is friendly with her as he is with everyone and maybe she is obviously confusing these friendly feelings with a true relationship.

Also, again I understand it may feel weird that we invited her to an outing. Absolutely in any other work environment would I 100 percent agree. However, in our close knit work setting families attend weekend outings together all of the time. Some are divorced and they attend with another couple. When I do not attend my husband will attend or ride with another couple. No big deal.

Idk. Thanks for all of the advice so far and thanks for any advice now.

I did not bring up the bottle to her, nor will I. I won’t write a thank you card and obviously plan to stay out of it. I told my husband it’s very obvious she’s into him and he’s staring to be overly concerned for her. I told him if that I am not overly jealous but it is beginning to cross a line in my book and if that’s what he wants, he can go for it. [/quote]

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