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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't believe that your daughter was called an "idiot" (see pp above) for getting a "D."

How would you like to be his/her daughter?

And society wonders why kids use performance enhancing drugs/cheat/commit suicide.

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DP. A grade of 'D' is reserved for the kids who have failed to learn even the bare minimum of material for the class. It's expected that everyone in the class has the capacity to pass.

If her daughter couldn't handle the university, she should have gone somewhere easier. [/quote]

NP. For all anyone here knows, the DD had one crappy professor who taught horribly or graded viciously--yes, there really are some arrogant a$$es teaching, who believe it toughens kids up to grade them as harshly as possible. And there are some idiot professors who do things like assure students, don't worry, you did OK, I just haven't finalized the grades yet, etc.

For all anyone here knows, the DD might have had fine grades through all of college and this one D is an aberration-- assuming that "she couldn't handle the university" as if she had tanked for four straight years is just stupid. You do not know the specifics around this one grade.

While it does seem that the DD should have kept closer tabs on things, d[b]o PPs blaming and blasting her really believe everyone who is getting out of college and moving immediately into an internship and job, as OP's DD was, is focusing anywhere but on those things?[/b] I understand why OP and the DD feel blindsided. Why didn't the university tell the student sooner that there was a problem? The line about how she can ONLY make up the credit AT the university sounds like a BS attempt to suck tuition out of her and to let the university preen itself over its "standards."

OP, university students are consumers and as such your DD needs to tell them she will work with them to fix this, but she has a full-time job (the goal of the education--right?) so they need to work with her on another route to that credit. She also should consider an appeal especially since the university took so long to notify her.

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Yes. I believe that students who had the academic chops to get into a T25 university are very, very good at dotting their "i"s, crossing their "t"s, and making sure they check all the right boxes. If she was truly doing well all this time, there is no way this came as a huge shock.
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I was going to bold the same part and make the same statement. The PP is forgetting that many (most?) of us went to a good university and graduated. Around the time of graduation, we were making sure that we have fulfilled the academic requirements and yes, also applying and interviewing for jobs. That's part of what it means to be ready for the world.

Really, all these posters (or maybe just one) claiming that college grads are so young and immature and clueless and nothing much can be expected of them should make sure they announce that on their college applications. Because I'm sure the colleges want to know who is or is not going to represent them well in the real world. Can you imagine OP's daughter in a real job? Missing a few deadlines, forgetting to get a few signatures, oh that.... yeah..... let me go tell my mom so she can bail me out. That's not how it works. If you aren't capable of surviving at a proper university, you shouldn't be there. You're taking the place of someone who would. If you aren't capable of being a well functioning member of the workforce, you shouldn't be graduating. At least not from a top university.
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